as promised, i read be honest, you're not that into him either.
it was just a'ight for me, dawg.
it's a quick read, especially when you skip the entire section on casual sex like i did. it doesn't offer anything too earth shattering and while it presents a lot of problematic situations with dating guys you're not that into, not a lot of solutions are offered.
one interesting concept i learned though, is about commitmentphobes. we all know/are commitmentphobes so i thought you'd like this:
people who can't commit to 'yes' also have a hard time committing to 'no.'
thus the hanger-ons, the dead end relationships that live on and on with no future, etc. etc. etc. of course the book doesn't tell you how to deal with it, but at least now you know, which is allegedly half the battle.
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ummmmm....this rocked me to my core as I was eating my Yoplait light fat free Boston Cream Pie yougurt. To my core, Holly. I can think of a few boys with this particular problem in both of our lives. It is so true, there are these guys in my life who wont say yes to things like marriage, my lifestyle and religion, being my boyfriend or even asking me out on a friday night but wont say no to hanging out with my endlessly, making out or being in some sort of deranged life long lesbian relationship partnership with me (these are MEN btw) anyhow, just between me and you, you know who I am talking about; but all the other ladies out there should realize that when men arent saying yes they arent saying no either and they are wasting your precious and fabulous time and keeping you from meeting Mr. Right. Cut the cord Ladies, cut the cord!
Great advice. On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are the super agreeable people that say yes to everything, even if they don't want to. I wonder if a bunch of these people tend to date the commitmentphobes endlessly. That could be a real problem.
There's my deep thought for the decade. I'm out of practice, so if it sounds stupid, just ignore me and move on.
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