and another thing.

as promised, i read be honest, you're not that into him either.

it was just a'ight for me, dawg.

it's a quick read, especially when you skip the entire section on casual sex like i did. it doesn't offer anything too earth shattering and while it presents a lot of problematic situations with dating guys you're not that into, not a lot of solutions are offered.

one interesting concept i learned though, is about commitmentphobes. we all know/are commitmentphobes so i thought you'd like this:

people who can't commit to 'yes' also have a hard time committing to 'no.'

thus the hanger-ons, the dead end relationships that live on and on with no future, etc. etc. etc. of course the book doesn't tell you how to deal with it, but at least now you know, which is allegedly half the battle.

does this ever happen to you?

you know how some weeks, you have enough clothes to get you through the week but you KNOW that you will need to do your laundry on saturday?

and you think about it all week long?

and then saturday comes and you would rather do ANYTHING but your laundry?

and then it's two in the afternoon and you still haven't done your chores because you've been busy doing a lot of other really important stuff like drinking diet coke out of a luminarc tumbler with heart-shaped ice cubes, doing yoga and then pilates just for kicks, watching your roommate hang up some art in the kitchen, watching split ends while really hoping that millionaire matchmaker or any of the housewives shows will be on next?

just me?

ok.

p.s. congratulations to one of my favorite people ever, kathleen, on getting engaged! i wish you all the best, even if it is true that i probably will not be marrying steve's brother. ;)

deep conversations on friday afternoons, or the one in which i (again) share my excitement for the hills season 5.

hollylynn: the hills season 5 looks good.
coworker: i saw the clip
hollylynn: not impressed?
hollylynn: the teaser gave me chills. i felt like the biggest loser, but not in a good way
coworker: i want to have faith, but i've been hurt once before
hollylynn: that is true. fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...
coworker: right...and i have so many other options to fill that void in my heart
coworker: so ya know, it's tough to bring down that wall
hollylynn: i understand that
hollylynn: but let me just say: remember what the two of you once had. don't you miss it even a little?
hollylynn: and wouldn't you hate yourself if you didn't do everything in your power to make things right?
hollylynn: if you turn your back now, you're no better than the hills season 4.
hollylynn: think about it.
coworker: i've given as much as a i can
hollylynn: ok, well you know when you've had enough, i guess.
coworker: you should know, though, this is the best relationship metaphor convo i've ever had
hollylynn: thank you
hollylynn: i know that i'm going to give it another shot
coworker: you're great hollylynn. you've saved my friday
hollylynn: all in a day's work.

now you watch:





my coworker may have lost hope, but blog friends, it’s not too late for you. i know that if we visualize an awesome season of the hills, then an awesome season will materialize. think of the long, blinky exchange of stares! think of the clothes! think of the liquid liner and subsequent liquid liner emmy-worthy tears!

who’s with me?

is you is, or is you ain’t, my constituency?? <-- name that movie.

ahem.

y'all need to get your caboose over to iheartyoublog.com for titillating teasers for two of my favorite shows, gossip girl and the hills.

that's all.

I’m in a weird place.

...musically, that is.

Yesterday, I was on a Whitney Houston high. It lasted through today, too. I had kind of forgotten about Whitney until Tatiana del Torro sang “Saving All My Love For You” and didn’t butcher it.

Then I had to hear the real thing.

Then I wanted “I Will Always Love You” and “I Have Nothing.” Those made me a little emotional.

So then I listened to “I Get So Emotional,” natch.

After that, I decided to rev things up and get some “I Wanna Dance With Somebody” in my life.

It was too wild. I had to downshift to “The Greatest Love.” I really hit a solid workflow with that one, probably because it’s a big listen-while-you-work radio song. Sometimes, everything just points back to the beauty of listen-while-you-work radio.

And that's all I have to say on the subject.

wait a second...

so today i was home for lunch watching tyra (i know, i know. judge me. i don't care.) and the topic of the show was "he's just not that into you."

bonus.

my favorite topic!

they had this "man panel" that listened to girls whine about how their boyfriends don't treat them exactly how they wanted to be treated. and the men decided that some of these guys were into the girls, some of them weren't and sometimes they just accused the girl of being dramatic (pretty fairly, in my opinion).

the thing that hit me over the head like frying pan was the realization that most of these girls didn't seem all that into their boyfriends.

interesting!

i get that with the book and the movie and all, this is a big fad. it puts a lot of pressure on guys i guess, but let's be honest - lots of guys have lots of issues. and lots of girls have done their finest *easy* breezy job to create the laziest generation of men our society has ever seen, and the feminist movement sure did it's job to confuse gender roles to the point that no one even knows what their responsibilities are anymore. i get all that.

but i mean ladies: if you're not that into the guy you're dating in the first place, who cares how he treats you? who cares if he only communicates through text or never pays for dinner? if you don't like him, break up with him and save both of you a lot of time and emotional turmoil.

on a similar note, i have that book: be honest, you're not that into him, either. i haven't read it yet...but i'm going to study and get back to you. this conversation isn't over yet.

here you go, mom.

i feel kind of weird doing this, since now that i see the pictures (taken with my incredible 1.3 mega pixel cell phone camera) and my living room actually looks kind of sad.

just promise me you'll visualize the before and after. the before: nothing on the walls, no tables, no rug, couches in horrid plaid in an array of jewel tones, tv on one of those 19.99 bachelor pad build-it-yourself jobs.

the after (keep in mind that i still need some lamps, more accessories, and definitely paint. not that i have the ambition for painting my rented apartment, but maybe i should):

loveseat with my favorite quilt (lucas scott used to have the same one on his bed), brown shag rug that my cute mom gave me, $3 end table i painted.

here's my couch, purple satin blanket i got at tjmaxx ages ago, old windows from emilie jayne, the cutest consignment store in slc, and throw pillows from where else - target. what color would you paint this wall??

chair that belonged to my great grandpa, recovered with a sassy shower curtain, table from d.i. that i painted, canvases i painted with wallpaper i framed in the middle, and some of my old stuff.

and that's what i've done so far. be sure to stay tuned for hollylynn's half-done kitchen/dining area in the coming weeks (unless this post depressed you so greatly that you have officially stopped following this blog).